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Old 03-22-2012, 05:08 PM
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Originally Posted by Qarzan View Post
Seems the men in the beginnings of relationships are not allowed to express closeness.
It's the same for women, if not worse! Men tend to get really weirded out if they think a woman wants more than they can give. While men have to do what they can not to seem creepy and only after sex (this is not your case, but in general), women have to make sure the guys know they're not getting fitted for a wedding gown and throwing away their birth control. When a relationship is just starting out, I think it's important for both men and woman to speak directly and to be careful not to layer expectation over our communications (and that means our listening skills as well as expressing ourselves - sometimes we only hear what we want to hear).
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