I don't think you can get 'out there' without some judgment. Let it be okay. Whose judgment are you not wanting to have? Random strangers? so what?
While I am very much wired to be a people-pleaser, I have learned that some people won't like me not matter what contortions I attempt to that end. So, oh well. But at the same time, I don't want rumors, etc. We live in the buckle of the bible belt (the common colloquial description), and feel that pursuing the poly life is a very tricky tightrope.
But then again, I tend to over-analyze.