"If you know you're deep, just go with it. Find an OSO you can deeply connect with. If you found a poly guy who didn't want it casual, wouldn't that be 'better' for you? To go with your nature, rather than against it?"
you're right, november rain. my problem has just been the ones I am physically attracted to have this sort of unavailable mystery. the old story, I guess. and they're not bad, in fact, I may even assume things about them that arent true. when I have brought up concerns they are more than open to discussion. I've just been keeping the concerns to myself, I suppose, to try to "keep it simple".