Flopswoggled... Love it.
As much as you may not want the advice, it seems obvious to me that this R is just not stable enough for a relationship with either of you.
But there are many many people in the world. Almost 7 thousand million of us. You will find others more suited. Personally, I find just letting them come to you works. Seems that when you least expect anything, new, amazing people come into your life.
Has worked every time for me anyways.
Hope at least you and your wife are happy with each other, and wish more happiness to you both for the rest of your lives. =] Enjoy what you have. Make the most of it.
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