Originally Posted by WalkingTheBlue
All she has said to me is that she has to be the only one, there can be no one else. I want to ask her what she is afraid of. What she thinks will change between us. What needs she has that she feels won't be met. She might find that she doesn't have any real answers to those questions.
Just a thought: My husband is fine with me with a woman, but not a man. At least for now. His fear is that a man is "true" competition. A woman has obvious attributes that my husband just cannot bring to the table. So it's different. She may be insecure & feel that (as I did at first) the friend will be "better" somehow than she is & she'll lose you.