While we have no "real world" experience just yet, one of the ground rules my husband & i have laid out is that he & i must have more sex with each other than with our lovers, since our marriage is the "main dish" and our lovers are the "spice."
I have to agree, as a woman recently out of a very rough spot in my marriage, that the lack of sex gives me concern as to the health of the marriage.
Steph: Wife, Bisexual, 24 year old mom to 1
Patrick: Husband, Straight, 23 year old dad to 1
Currently exploring Poly together, our latest adventure.