have you read any books on the poly lifestyle? If not, I highly suggest you do. The standard of course is "the ethical slut" by dossie easton. But my favorite is "polyamory: roadmaps for the clueless and hopeful" it is by anthony ravenscroft. It is by a margin, the most brutally honestbook on the pros and cons of living a poly lifestyle.
best of luck to you in your new adventures