I didn't wanted to say that you have to be OK with him entering your life completely, don't misunderstand. It worked out for us, meaning: it CAN be possible, but it doesn't have to be. Don't put up with something you don't feel comfortable about. Not everyone is the same and able to handle things similar. On the contrary, I would strongly suggest that she stops pushing that way if you aren't comfortable with it. (My blog is linked in my signature, but there are others as well that give great insight
Facts: 30, female, bi, v-type relationship with Sward (husband, straight, mono) and Lin (boyfriend, straight, mono), poly-fi and co-primary.