Just to add my point of view. This topic first came up when we were talking about sex with other people. I said I'm kinda picky when it comes to who I actually decide to have sex with, because there has to be attraction but it also has to make sense. I only want to end up in comfortable drama-free situations. So, there are quite a few people that I would want to sleep with but I don't, because at the end of the day I make rational decisions. But even if I make a decision not to do something, the want doesn't go away. I just..decide not to do it. Where as rory stops wanting it altogether. I admire that about her, because it makes living a bit easier I would guess.
Me: bi female in my 30's
Living with Hank (partner) and Will (friend)
Metamour: Dahlia (Hank's partner)
Recent ex: rory (living with Dahlia)