Originally Posted by Mintcar
. Sometimes, however in my heart I believe that he loves me less and that he goes out of his way to make her feel special, loved, and appreciated in ways that are almost imperceptable but there nonetheless. I fear that perhaps I'm being sensitive and paranoid but I'd appreciate your insight. What are the small telltale signs that one partner is not truly loved and needed as much as the other? Please, please give me your thoughts. I need them. Thank you.
You've asked him.. He's given you an answer. You are questioning the answer because you feel their relationship, and the children are binding them together. HE gave you an answer and you don't believe it. You'd rather spend time worrying about tiny ways that he says he loves her.
"almost imperceptible"? So he glances at her? He touches her briefly?
I can imagine it is hard for both women in this relationship. "Who do you love more?" will just make you jealous of their relationship.
Why are you doing this to yourself?
Enjoy what you have. Love. He's trying to give you reassurance... in your insecure moments... and you're making a big deal out of it. IF he said he loved you exactly the same, you'd know he was lying (as I did when my mother said the same thing about me and my sister).
Work on your confidence. You're making huge assumptions about little things.. he looked at her a certain way.. (maybe he was checking for spinach between her teeth...)
It sounds like you've got a wonderful relationship.. things are going well.. now enjoy it. Don't over-think it.