hi urmila, happy to read your steps
i agree with Magdlyn..
and i add: if in the present period you all feel to love each other, spend time together without making sex, that's very nice and sweet and NRE too
BUT i would not "fix" any general, radical rule about it..
"as long a i live, i vow to die and be reborn, die and be reborn, die and be reborn, over and over again, forever reinventing myself" r.brezsny