I agree with you. I feel like i'm being misunderstood, and digging a hole with everyone here because of it. Please don't think that I am questioning your ethics in either a poly or mono relationship. Like I said there are right and wrong ways of doing either. All I mean is they weren't honest and I don't agree with that, being truly poly one has to be completely honest. Mono in OUR SOCIETY (not necesseserily how it ought to be) does not demand true honesty. I don't agree with it, but it seems this is the way many people cope, the don't ask, don't tell policy. Let me reiterate: I don't agree with it, iit just seems that's how things are currently for the general populous.