poly is no more or less ethical than mono is, I agree there are ethical and non ethical ways to do either.
what I was saying in talking about the greener grass on the other side of the fence was about removing the mechanism. It is the basic idea of a systems approach, if you remove the root causes, you remove the problem. Most people here try to apply that basic reasoning when dealing with jealousy, all i'm saying is that it can be used for many other things as well. That is the connection.
please don't get me wrong, I do NOT agree with what happened in the original story of this blog. Lying, cheating, from either side of the sexual spectrum, that is unethical. The honesty which being poly demands (at least from what i've seen) would have helped remove those problems. If everyone is honest and ok with sleeping with eachother, there can be no cheating, or lying.