Well, then maybe you could start in a much smaller way. Maybe by letting more things be about what you want.
No, honey, I want to go *here* for dinner tonight.
Thank you for the coffee, hunny, but what I really want is tea.
I want to visit my parents this weekend, can we visit yours next weekend?
I think child should learn how to fish (or chop wood, or be in boy scouts, or whatever).
Practice 'letting it be about what you want' on a much smaller scale, and see how that goes.
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein
Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who lives in the apartment building next door)