Husband and I have been emailing back and forth about all of this a lot, and had a long talk about it yesterday.
For the first time he admitted that the whole situation makes him uncomfortable too. He also told me he brings it up every time they're together. He feels that things will change soon.. that she's coming round to the idea that things can't really go on the way they are.
It meant a lot to me that this is not some untouched subject between them. I thought that after 1 intitial conversation about it, they had not talked about it anymore and that my husband had sort of resigned himself to the idea.
Maybe its not really going as fast as I'd like, but I do feel he's working on things to shift. We'll see.
early forties, straight.