I've come to point in my own sexual awareness that I can't imagine wanting sex without being in a state of loving connection. Even with Redpepper, if my connection is not there because some issue is lingering, not only do I not want sex, but my body doesn't respond.
I've tried just about everything sexually and although I had fun and found it interesting from the other persons/people's point of view, I did not find it arousing for the most part. I'm totally fine with this. Sex used to have a certain power and influence over me. I wasn't healthy in that and didn't act in a responsible way.
Sex is a form of communication for me, not just an activity. There's only one person I want to communicate in that way with, and it is incredible now that I found that!
Better no sex than unconnected sex for me.
Playing the Game of Life with Monopoly rules.
Monogamy might just be in my genes
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Last edited by MonoVCPHG; 11-24-2009 at 04:15 AM.