Originally Posted by dingedheart
How long has your husband talked about integrating her into the social fabric of your lives?
Have you told your husband about your reluctance and discomfort?
he's absolutely not pushing me about this. But he does get upset about the fact that I am much more averse to letting her 'in' than he would be about meeting and socializing with any of my secondary partners. We are just very different in this respect. He doesn't have any of my jealousy and insecurity issues.
He knows about my discomfort and would never do anything to make me more uncomfortable. But I have to acknowledge his needs, as well.