Originally Posted by Cleo
the thing is, I don't really want her to become more integrated into my life. I'm much happier with the situation where it's all more separated.
I think husband and I have some serious negotiating ahead of us....
It sounds like you really do. If you can both give a little it will probably work out just fine. Everything doesn't need to change overnight. Be very clear on what you're comfortable with right now. Also be clear about what your ideal situation looks like. Ask him to do the same (and possibly ask his girlfriend as well). You might find that when you are very clear that there is a bit of overlap and that's where you start from with the negotiations. Maybe for a while it will be that you take turns going to group events with your husband, there's no rule book saying that you all have to go to things together after all.