Aahh...my OKC profile spells out in detail just what the ideal partner would be - I DO think it's great to be super specific especially when you are floundering in what you want. No matter how awesome somebody is if they hate your favorite band or TV show, well maybe you don't need to meet them in the next few months?
Also, having been a person who tries to use spa treatments/spa vacations to escape or relax - it is great that you are scheduling a lot of them locally, but if you go to the first appointment or two then find yourself RIGHT back into reality after you drive home, don't hesitate to plan yourself a solo road trip to to somewhere that maybe you can get out of touch with it all and have massage etc really close to your room. Nothing is worse than having a great treatment where you get in touch with yourself and feel amazingly hopeful about the world, then get stuck in traffic or end up at home putting the laundry in the dryer 45 minutes later!
Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.