I'm glad I'm not alone in thinking that normal dating compatibility criteria should still take a front seat in poly dating. One thing that I've never found a satisfactory method of doing is asking out someone on a date who is new to the very *idea* of poly. It always comes out awkwardly, especially since it conflates the delicate dance of courtship (e.g. "hey what are you doing Friday night?") with the often detailed explanation of poly to someone who has never heard of it before (e.g. "So what, your wife is cheating on you and you have a harem?"). Like I said, awkward
If you've had similar experiences, or if your silver tongue has a better way of communicating, please do share.