If it was me, I'd be mighty pissed. I'd try to step off for at least a week, most probably more. Just you watch what a week does to turn the lesson around as all parties get a minute to work their shit out.
Sorry, man. Your wife needs you as a friend right now. Focus on helping her, I'd say.
good luck-your support of her can heal you both if you let it.
"Rocks will open and make a way for the lover."
~Hazrat Inayat Khan
I love Catfish and Charlie.