I was with my primary for about 1.5 years and we were having problems. He was struggling with being with committed to one person so long (ex serial Monogamist) and I was struggling with being stright for so long. When he met someone he was attracted to he asked me if I would be willing to have an open relatonship. I flipped the hell out. I thought that he didnt love me, I wasn't good enough etc etc. But he didn't pressure me into anything and gave me all the time I needed. Eventually I came across the book "Ethical Slut". It gave me perspective on what he was feeling and put me in. touch with my unfulfilled needs. So we gave it a shot. I found my needs are best met in an open relationship. Havent looked back. I do ID as poly.
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