Originally Posted by Emm
If he was trying to build a patio for the first time, would he start by nailing random pieces of wood together in a vaguely patio-shaped heap, or would he look at how successful patios are usually built and use that as a starting point?
Okay, I'll bite, even though building a patio is really not comparable to working on a relationship.
He would probably do the second, because then it is something concrete to work on that is outside his mind. It's not like he'd have to use his feelings as wooden planks, or something similar.