Originally Posted by insanity
what I mean is that I can never be 100% emotionally connected to either of them, is that even right??
Why not? What does "100% emotionally connected" mean to you, anyway? Aren't you 100% yourself whether you are alone or in the company of another? When you are present, how can you be less than all of who you are in any given moment?
Are you looking at polyamory as something that divides up your feelings and energies with other people? Because a lot of people feel that polyamory expands our ability to love, even though our time cannot be spent 100% with one or the other person.