I can't even tell you how much bullshit this is!! I definitely wouldn't have anything thing to do with this guy ever again.... (maybe one last "conversation") He used your wife for sex...I hope your she is doing ok.
Sorry to hear about this ..... this guy is a fucking asshole , he doesn't own his wife. If she wants to have contact with you he'll just have to deal with it or drag his double standard ass back to his momma's house. His fucking your wife doesn't mean she should have to suffer the loss of a friend.