Do you live in separate households? Do you see each other everyday?
How about suggesting a middle-of-the-road approach between "tell-all" and "don't-ask-don`t-tell."
In other words, if you have an isolated instance of casual sex during "me time", you can keep it to yourself. If you develop feelings for someone, you "tell", and first ask your partner's permission before physical contact.
I also see nothing wrong with asking her for a ballpark estimation of when she thinks she might be ready, how both of you can work toward it, and if there`s anything you can do to help. I think that is a balanced compromise between your feelings and hers.
Depending on what can be agreed upon, at least tentatively, both of you can gauge how compatible you are moving forward.
Independent, sex-positive, bi-curious, private, atheist, elitist, athletic dude.
Last edited by feelyunicorn; 03-07-2012 at 02:40 AM.