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Old 03-06-2012, 06:30 PM
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Yeah, I too find it difficult to make a clean distinction between them all.
I'm glad some people agree with me on that :-)

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Especially because, to me, there is always some level of feeling to sex, and vice-versa.
I agree. This is what I was headed towards when I talked that the main issue is defining love. How you define it can change how we think of many things. I define it as caring for someone, but I care for many people.. so then it becomes how much you care.. and how can you really measure this? At what point does caring for someone become love for someone?

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Easy though to make a distinction in terms of emphasis: polyamory - relationships; prostitution - work; swinging - casual sex.
Agreed.

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I also seem to identify some sex-negativity in swinging too, though, believe it or not. Or, to put it another way, it`s very gendered sex-negativity whereby, understandably, male libido is held in scorn and female libido is put on a pedestal...If for no other reason than the law of offer and demand.

So, to a man, the rhetoric is that you should be looking for "friends", that it isn`t "all about sex", etc.
Interesting. I think that, as you say, it has a lot to do with supply and demand, and perhaps that women are more interested in friendships with sex as a component then sex alone.

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Also, extreme hypocrisy concerning prostitution. As I later found out, prostitutes posing as wives are the lifeblood in many a swinger club, yet kept hush hush.
Very interesting.

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So, since we`re talking about married couples mostly in search of unicorns, the female is your price of entry (as it is in porn). In my 20s, I tried to "penetrate" the swinging world as a lifestyle single man; I felt I was basically denied entry without trial. Although, I am admittedly uncompromising concerning gender double-standards and passive-aggressiveness around sex.
Yes, I've heard about this; I think it's safe to say that more men are interested in the swinging lifestyle then women.
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