Originally Posted by MorningTwilight
It's a hard thing. Do you let her slip away and regret the chance not taken and the love left unexpressed, or do you spill it and risk her pulling away, thinking she's making it easier on you by not being right there so close?
I don't have an answer for you. Only you can decide what outcome is acceptable, but I'll tell you this: putting yourself through hell by keeping yourself in limbo is no way to be.
You are right.
I'm going to tell her, next week, in person. I'm going to tell her and it probably will not go how I wish it would. But at least I'll be free of this.
If she doesn't reciprocate, I'll choose to pull away anyway.
Me: 22-year-old female, cis and queer, have identified as poly for ~2 years, currently in my first committed poly relationship
A: Poly boyfriend since 9/17/13, currently sexually open and not seeing other romantic partners but open to such in the future