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Old 03-06-2012, 06:02 AM
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Originally Posted by dingedheart View Post
Sounds like the whole point of taking the job was to spend more time and deepen the relationship. Not take a pay cut and go back to the old dating routine.
It's a matter of perspective. How is seeing someone once or twice a week "the old dating routine?" That is still quite frequent, especially when you're with someone who has other partners. Adults have lives, jobs, friends. I just don't understand how a few times a week is considered insubstantial. There are only seven days in a week. Deepening a relationship, I think, would rely on quality time, not necessarily quantity of time.

And no one is saying to lie, but to be compassionate. Yeah, to say one feels burnt out by juggling multiple relationships and a full schedule is fine, but to tell him his company burns her out sounds a little harsh.
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