(psst, Somegeezer... 'going at the pace of the person struggling the most.')(I'm certain you're not the only one; it wasn't great, it was just the first thought that popped into my head. I'm awfully fond of 'guy walks into a bar, says 'ouch')
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein
Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who lives in the apartment building next door)