Originally Posted by Ceoli
I used to think that way. But I found the treasure of having a person in your life far outweighs any pain that the distance creates. Perhaps it's because I'm a person that has moved great distances in my life. Perhaps it's because my brother's now marriage started off as a long distance relationship for 3 years, with her living in Turkey and him living in the States. If I were monogamous, I would still weigh the connection over the distance and would probably have the goal of resolving that distance. But I also know that in my life, I won't be able to resolve such things with all of my connections, but I choose to keep the connections because it would hurt me more to lose that.
Monogamous with monoagomous I could see having an easier time of it. Monogamous with poly I personally can't even fathom. That is probably due to my interpretation of commitment. I don't recommend mono/poly relationships to anyone and in a LDR situation I am humbled by Hodge's strenght.
Best of luck to anyone strong enough to do this. I tilt my hat to them.