I can feel for you, I have been stuck in the 'should I, shouldn't I' situation for months and years. It's mainly about coming to terms with yourself before you are able to talk to your partner. That was just the time I needed to be sure of what I want. Good for you that the talking finally started
Facts: 30, female, bi, v-type relationship with Sward (husband, straight, mono) and Lin (boyfriend, straight, mono), poly-fi and co-primary.