Originally Posted by onoma
Ah, but now you're just talking about semantics. At least for this discussion. I guess for you it could be reworded to "What led you to choosing multiple, non-exclusive relationships?"
It isn't just semantics to me (on this issue).
What led me to living polyamorously was the end of my marriage. I'd always been happily monogamous before that, so I'm not one of those people who felt disgruntled or oppressed by so-called "enforced monogamy." The relationship ending just made me think more about my direction in life, how to connect with people and express my love, and how free I can be to create the kinds of relationships I find satisfying. For me it's more about asking myself what I want in order to be happy and then finding ways to manifest that.