You agreed to these conditions which seem fine to me, ( except the access to emails and texts,..Wtf,..That is like thought-control ! ) on the basis that they were temporary.
Did you three ever discuss a specific goal for a future place in time, when a rule or two would relax ? I am guessing 'no'....
If not, I would sit down with them and explain that you have had enough. That you want change, and you need to see some proof from them, that they want to truly try for 'more'. Give them a chance to set about relaxing a rule or two, but give yourself a time limit on sticking it out. 2 months,..whatever.
If they can`t do that, then leave. Or, if they say they will work on it, and don`t show any progress in the time-limit you put on yourself for staying, then leave.
Lesson learned,.....(That goes right along with the hierarchy-malarchy thread, currently in progress, funny enough. )......If you want to start out with a better chance of something 'more' , then look for people, other then married-people who are long-term ingrained with one another. Or, look at married people who see each other more as 'best buddies' then romantic partners.
'Cuz, people can offer you bs advice, about how you are just in a relationship with him, and to do your own thing, but the truth is, they made a decision long-ago to put each other first. So old-habits, promises, and ways of life tend to die hard, or not at all. Many people think they want something different, but usually it`s only fun to be different for a little while, and on their own terms.
Last edited by SourGirl; 02-29-2012 at 06:40 AM.