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Old 02-29-2012, 03:19 AM
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His first long term gf didn't know about you, which shows he's willing to hide something huge from someone with whom he's in an intimate relationship. And his second long term gf didn't know about the depth of his feelings for you, which shows that even when he tells some of the truth he doesn't feel obligated to tell all of it... I imagine she would be shocked and hurt, maybe even devastated, to hear that you're #1 in his heart. I bet SHE thinks she's #1 in his heart... and who's to say who's getting the truth, if either of you are. He says that to him poly is about being "bad", which seems to further imply that he considers unethical behavior an acceptable, even necessary part of his lifestyle.

Poly isn't about lying. I'd feel insecure too if I were you.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.
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