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Old 02-28-2012, 12:29 AM
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For me it's fairly simple.

Descriptive hierarchy ("This is my life partner, Sue, we live together and are raising children and share a primary relationship, and this is my girlfriend, Rhoda, we see each other when we can and share a secondary relationship") that uses terms to describe the shapes different relationships end up taking is perfectly fine and natural, prescriptive hierarchy ("No you can't come to Yule, Rhoda, I don't share holidays with people with whom I'm in a secondary relationship...") that uses terms to limit one type of relationship, often so as to "protect" another ("...because otherwise what would be special about my relationship with Sue?") are problematic.
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