sounds like you could use a lot of reading here. Try doing a tag search for "swinging" or "swingers" or "casual sex" or anything else that looks interesting and make yourself comfortable with being here for awhile.
Personally, I went the swinging route for a bit and it had an appeal that I could see, but was not comfortable with at all. Some come into poly from swinging with people that are exclusively with them and it works out... it could take some time to figure that all out. Its great that you recognize that.
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