LOL. No, dingedheart, that is definitely not the problem (although I did have at least one drink in each case). The non-monogamy idea was mine and I suggested it about six years ago a few months before I asked her to marry me. We've just been doing the baby thing for a while, and beating the subject to a bloody equine pulp before taking the plunge. I'm thrilled
islandgy9 is probably closer to the mark. Two were first dates, two were second dates. The problem did happen twice with one of my dates.
I am looking for a relationship. Sex and emotional intimacy are pretty connected for me. Before these adventures I'd had only three sex partners in my life. I had some performance issues back then, too, but I had always chocked it up to being a teenager. I think it's probably just too much anticipation.
Here's the thing. I'm really smitten with the latest one, and I don't want this to continue to be a problem and make things weird. I was able to satisfy her in other ways, but it's still awkward.
I'm really hoping to hear from someone who had similar problems when he first started.