Originally Posted by lovinhimloviner
I know I have changed over the years. That is what happens to people. He claims he is still the same person but he isn't of course.
He may very well be the same person, but you (having changed) are looking at him through different eyes. Over the last three years, I've been going through an incredible emotional, physical, sexual change myself. I am not the same person my husband married, even fundamentally I've changed. I joke with my husband often "If someone told you, you'd marry a weed smokin' woman that was into open relationships, would you have believed them?" His answer: "F*CK NO!" That's not who he married, but for whatever reason, after some soul searching, that's what I've become. But my husband, he's the same guy I married. Although, I would encourage any change in him he felt ready to make, I can say with great confidence that he'll likely still be the same person 10, 20 and 30 years from now. But having changed myself (and continuing you change), I see him differently.