"headed to the city, and only a matter of minutes into the drive i brought up the fact thatitwasweirding me out thatwe had made a decision about breaking up. The whole thing that i've been experiencing as of late is a realization that i don't know what the right thing to do is - my maps no longer work for this new territory, and i have to build new ones to be poly with my life partner. Part of building accurate maps is definitelyby NOT making emotionaldecisionswhen you don't know what the hell is going on, and here we had just made another decision. Learning curve, hello there! so we decide that when we get to the city, that we'll just let things unfold without a preset agenda. We know what we want to talk about, and are curious to hear her thoughts, and we have brought her stuff with us in case we do end up breaking up."
Just wanted to say, rock on for this. Even though it looks like breaking up was indeed totally the right decision (I can't stand emotional immaturity, WOW... she sure showed her true colors there) I think the decision to go into things with an open mind was awesome and brave.
The major players. Me, under-30 bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 3+ years. Clay, new boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/"it's complicated."
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy, Clay's partner.