Originally Posted by SNeacail
Seeing her happy turns you on - or the thought of seeing her happy and giddy. Does it turn you on when she comes home all excited about a new hobby or activity? I get this way with my husband (we are not in a poly relationship at the moment). I like seeing him all excited about something, so that's what I see when I let my mind wander into the realm of possibilities
. Then I have to come back to reality and realize we aren't ready for that just yet - reality just bites sometimes
I love to see/make her happy, but no, her happiness per se does not turn me on in an erotic way. I think it's the polyamorous stuff (emotional/romantic intimacy) that affects me. Opening up our marriage w regard to emotional/romantic intimacy (in addition to sex) feels like such a profound shift. It's scary and exhilarating.