Your feelings are not uncommon. You are not alone. Have a look at the tag section and do some reading under tags such as "lessons" "foundations" "vees" vee" and anything else that catches your fancy. Maybe read in the blog section too. There is much to learn! I would suggest doing this reading with your partner as it will bring up much emotion I suspect.
I am in a vee with two men as a hinge and as an arm with a woman who is married. We are all doing fine after three years
its all possible.