I don't see why he thinks he should get to jump the gun just to have sex with someone. Sorry, it just seems a bit childish to me. It seems self centered. Where is his consideration, his empathy, compassion for your situation.
I would put off all non-monogamous adventures until you have a solid foundation. Look at the threads tagged "foundations" and "lessons" here for some ideas on what that looks like.
If he is so clueless to ask for this NOW then to me you have a lot of work to do. I would suggest getting on the couples therapy. To me he's totally out of it.
I hear that you've loved him forever but that does not a good relationship make. I love my ex-girlfriend from my 20's, but that doesn't mean we work well together. I think you need a lot more to go on than that. A hell of a lot more.
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Last edited by redpepper; 02-21-2012 at 08:27 PM.