Thank you, GroundedSpirit, for acknowledging the problem and for your apology.
I know that can be very difficult to do sometimes, and that, just as many women have been enculturated to repress thier sexuality, many men are enculturated against admitting a weakness of any kind, and that an apology is an admission of weakness. Perhaps you are one of these men; I don't know. But I do know that being able to accept accountability for one's errors, rectify them and learn from them are hallmarks of the enlightened mind. The John Wayne code is just as screwed up as the Madonna/Whore. So thank you for trying to move past it in this case.
As far as I am concerned, we can close the book on this unpleasantness and move forward, unless someone else needs to process it further. I look forward to many interesting and enlightening discussions with you here on the boards, and to the free exchange of ideas and information within this community of equals.