If anyone can offer any encouragement for me to feel better about our situation I would appreciate that."
Just because your hubby has feelings for someone else doesn't mean he doesn't also care for you. "Pouring" honesty into the mix can only help. However if this whole concept is new to the both of you, then I think the slower the pace the better.
Good luck and happy loving!
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (together 21+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (together 3+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS
TT: poly bi male, married to Lotus, FB with JaneQ
VV and MsJ: bi-women with male primaries, LTR LDR FWBs to JaneQ
My poly blogs on this site:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe