Originally Posted by nycindie
I have been thinking of this thread lately because I'm beginning to reach my saturation point again with the same problems cropping up here all the time, the same questions, the amount of people who start off their posts saying their situation is unique yet we've seen their story here a gazillion times. I can't help it - I used to answer so many threads here, but lately I have no patience for most of them.
I don't lose patience so much as I just get worn out. Each tale of woe brings a bit of sadness with it and I can only absorb so much sadness before I feel overwhelmed. Between the empathetic pain, looking for wayward spam, and skimming for tone and snark, I find myself responding much less than I want.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.