Thanks for the support and opinions and such. This weekend actually went well, all things considered. The first day that the new guy was in town really upset me, since it was the night before that things had been stated, but... once they got a chance to speak privately, the hubby pretty much gave carte blanch permission to him.
"I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do, because I notice it always coincides with their own desires." ~Susan B. Anthony