I don't think any of us are saying that it's a chore to be with you, but it is psychologically unhealthy to be codependent; which to me is what most people seem to want when they claim that they want a partner who is their everything and vice versa.
Having your own life, friends, etc IS healthy and helps you appreciate your partner(s) for the amazing things they bring to your life. Everyone in my life is there because I want them there; friends, family, lovers. I tell people, that if you're in my life, you're important. When I chose someone to be mine (friend, lover, etc) they are mine for life, I'm fiercly loyal and protective of them.
I am sorry that you've experienced people making you feel like you were a chore.
Last edited by BrigidsDaughter; 02-20-2012 at 12:43 AM.