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Old 02-19-2012, 08:02 AM
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I think it's pretty clear that this girlfriend is not for you, and this relationship will not work out.

As for the guilt, let it go - just because this chick wants a dedicated mono relationship doesn't mean that you should be the one to give it to her, and the fact that you can't is no reason to indulge in guilt.
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