Just a note on L's husband: I wrote this last night when I was kind of upset about an ongoing situation involving him, and I wish the edit function were still available. We just push each other's buttons. I am angry with him, and he is angry with me, and we both have our reasons and we both feel justified. I'm not sure we'll ever be friends, but he is not the devil. He opened up their house to me, and even though I feel these very negative feelings towards him, they may not be justified 100%.
*sighs* It does complicate things, because L now wants us to be on solid footing and for me to apologize, and I just will not apologize until my anger has subsided and I feel we are both ready and slightly more mature. Just such a weird situation.